One of my college buddies who lives in Denver now is the chillest dude. He’s loved by everyone he meets, partly because he brings a calm, positive disposition to every interaction. A couple years ago, he said one of his mantras is “don’t complain” (in harder language) and it really stuck with me.
Righteous thought spirals that result from negative thoughts can be super, super exhausting. Totally depletes cognitive resources and sets a lower energy level/ tone.
Doing this 21 day no complaint experiment that Tim Ferriss posted about. You wear a bracelet or rubber band and have to go 21 days without complaining. If you do, you have to switch the band to the other wrist and start the 21 days again. I’m adopting his guidelines for what constitutes a complaint: “describing an event or person negatively without indicating next steps to fix the problem.”
Would love if people joined me in trying to set better reaction habits.